The Solo Experience

One of the most-heard questions and cheesy subjects on travel blogs is:
“Why would you decide to travel alone?”
The question often goes accompanied by arguments such as fear, solitude and boredom. However, quite the opposite is true and I couldn’t keep myself from sharing the readily-exploited subject with you, but for the first time from my point of view.

A few weeks ago, I met an Italian guy at Delft station (close to where I live). He had come here for an internship and I had spoken to him on facebook before, however he didn’t have anything planned for when he arrived. Many people would regard that as ignorant, naive or just plain stupid, but I can familiarise with reckless decisions and just going wherever the wind blows. I decided to pick him up from the station and we spent the entire afternoon wandering around the city in order to find him a how-to-Dutch starter-pack, consisting of a sim-card, a bicycle, an OV-chipcard and hutspot for dinner (a very Dutch dish of mashed potatoes with carrots and onion). With my action I wasn’t sleazily trying to score some karma points, but I just liked to help as well as that it was a great opportunity to get in touch with yet another person from another area.

However, the main reason why I loved to show this stranger around so much is because it reminded me of all the people who made my travels as awesome as they were, of all the people who owned a special place in my heart just by being there and the fantastic feeling I had to know that they were there for me and made each destination special. I would like everyone who goes places to be able to experience the same and this felt like a chance to give someone a small-scale refelection of the hospitality of locals. We still hang out.

Hutspot

Make friends
The reason why I wanted to tell you this story is because it goes to show how easy it initate contacts; locals and non-locals, in a foreign country. This phenomenon mainly occurs when you’re travelling by yourself. The need to ask for directions suddenly seems to increase when there is no one by yourself who you can discuss your assumptions with. You only have your own ideas and resoursces and you certainly don’t want to get lost in an unknown city and a foreign country on your own, so you need to socialise. Sometimes this results in a hurried “left-right-second street left” and a quick smile, but sometimes in a long-lasting friendship.

The exact same thing seems to happen when you’re on a long flight, where you can only spend so much of the time pretending to be asleep on your uncomfortable chair with nowhere to stretch your legs properly. When travelling in a group or with a friend or partner it is easy to start chatting about in your own language, play a game of cards or discuss your travel plans, whereas being by yourself sort of pushes you into conversation with the lucky passenger that you were designated to share your armrest with.
On my journey to Australia, I happened to meet my first true Aussie friend like this, who later introduced me to many more amazing people. I won’t go into too much detail about how we met, but it is quite interesting that the boy that you happen to sit next to on plane flying into Sydney, happens to live in the same city that you are heading to (and is a good three hours from Sydney) and even better that his girlfriend lives in the exact same street as where you will be situated. Perfect invitation for a party and perhaps a little too coincidental, considering the size of Australia…

This was not the first nor the last friend that I met as a result of being by myself and I could (and maybe will) fill an entire post describing all the striking situations in which I met new people that had an influence in my life. If not by accident, then social networks such as meet-up or couchsurfing are the way to go to find like-minded people in your area, but that’s not what this post is about. This is about why travelling solo is such a bless and meeting interesting people is only one of them.

No compromises
Choosing which road to go down is a second one. We all know that people are different. No matter how much you have in common with someone or how good friends you are with someone, there will be things that you will want to do differently and when you’re travelling together, you’ll have to compromise. Compromising is partly self-sacrificing, which is a social thing to do, but it’s the last thing you’ll want to do when you’re away on a lifetime trip. Imagine having spend year saving up money and even longer looking forward to be able to go out and live your dream, but one of the plans you made can’t happen in the way you had in mind, because your travel buddy had a different plan or perhaps not the ability, skills or certificate to join you on your adventure. You might be too short on time to do both and if you want to stay together, both of you might go home not fully satisfied, where you both could have done it all. This might seem a little selfish, and it is, but in some cases, there is no shame in that.

I have obviously had travel buddies and travelling with company is a relief sometimes, but overall I prefer the solo experience. There is an almost-certain probability that you will meet people on the way that will want to accompany you as far as your paths cross without any forced arrangements to stay together. People come and go, that what happens in life and that’s what happens on the road. It works perfectly fine, as it always has done, but nowadays, people are too scared of being alone.

Get to know yourself
Travelling for a year after high-school should be obligatory if it was up to me. Self-knowledge is valuable, not only in your personal life, but also in later business. Travelling in is an experience that changes lifes, views and… people. Seeing different places, different cultures and moreover being open to accept and experience them leads to a completely new view on the worlds. No matter how unlikely it sounds, but this might change you as a person, in a positive way. Knowledge about the world around you might give you some more knowledge about yourself and more tolerance to other people. It will at least make you think twice about what’s really important. And believe me, being prom queen isn’t.

Travelling alone especially will make you more aware of other people around you and their needs, because they need you and your advice as much as you need theirs. You’ll have to share a room and kitches with people (unless have the funds to pay for a private hotel room, but I would still recommend staying in a hostel dorm once, just for the experience. You might hate it, but at least you can say you’ve tried!). Having felt how it is to be alone in a different environment where you want to have fun and want to be accepted, you will realise how important it is to accept other people and help them out. Life is about giving and taking, not for your own good, but for making the world a better place.

Become independent
This goes mostly for young travellers, who are just leaving their safe parents house for the first time in their lifes. Travelling will force you to take care of yourself and will give you the advantage of becoming independent sooner than non-travellers the same age as you.

This doesn’t mean that you’ll instantly become a boring, responsible adult, quite the opposite, you’ll get to be a perhaps responsible, but mostly self-sufficient and open-minded youngster.

Source: http://www.traveljournals.net

Easy to fit in
No matter where in the world you have travelled, if you have tried to stay on a budget, the above picture can’t be anything new to you. The moment you walk into a hostel dorm room and need to figure out which bed in the sweaty room full of suitcases belongs to you. It happened to me once that there was no free bed at all in the room, the mistake of the hostel, they had accidentally overbooked the room. However, even if this isn’t the case, it is often still hard to figure out which bed is still empty, because all of the dorm rooms in the hostel are continously occupied and you can consider yourself lucky that you have even found that bed.

Imagine the same situation, but now being with two or maybe even more travellers. At certain times of the year places can get so crowded that it might not be possible to find two spots in the same hostel, let alone in the same room. If you’re determined to stay together, it often results in the need to find a more expensive and therefore quiter hostel. However those extra bucks spend could also have bought you a beer or another night’s dinner.

Again, the same phenomenon seems to happen in different situations. When participating in an organised tour, being alone can give you the advantage of being able to fill a lone spot in another tour group. If it’s a busy tour, going solo can save you a lot of waiting time, because you can blend in in almost any readily existing group.

Obviously, travelling solo can be a disadvantage at the same time. Some attractions require (at least) two or four people to participate. However, it is usually easy to find people to join you and to form a group of two or four. If not, you can often skip the line in order to help a group of five out when the groups need to be even. This way I got into most of the waterslides at wet ‘n wild at the Gold Coast within minutes, where people had to stand in line for hours!

Wet ‘n wild funnel slide. Source: en.wikipedia.org

Travel cheap
I already gave away a few aspects of it being cheaper to travel alone in the last paragraph. However, there is more than that. I especially noticed this when I started arranging my trip for July. Not often have I had to book a flight for two (or more) people before, but this time I was very excited. It was the middle of the freaking night and I was bored and hoped to find cheap flights and as a matter of fact I did (possibly because no one else in the area was looking for flights at that time). However, I had searched for solo flights and then had the brilliant idea to ask a nice, positively weird and rather impulsive girl to join me. And she did. I have already spoken about my excitement of having a travel buddy before, so I’ll leave that for now.

The thing is, that once I was looking for seats for two people, prices went up by €100- €150. Sad, but logical, as people on their own can fill up whatever random seat was still empty, while people travelling together will want to sit more or less at communication distance from each other at least. This is absolutely something to take into account. If you don’t mind being on seperate seats or in drastic cases seperate flights, you might want to book apart from each other in order to save a few bucks.

Fall in love
Last but not least, falling in love is easier to do on your own. Well, not really, because you need a second person to fall in love with, but I meant when travelling on your own. I could have treated this at the “making friends” bit, but decided that it would be nicer to give love the special place it deserves. Holiday crushes, vacation loves or foreign soulmates, they don’t usually last as a result of at least one of the partners is moving about. However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t have a good time with someone special for as long as it lasts.

Falling in love is a wonderful feeling, although in the case of holiday crushes “love” might not be the right word. However, you will meet people that are at least highly interesting to you and when you’re alone, your accesible to speak to or you could just go out and speak to them. Whereas having a friend by your side who might have an opinion or require some more info about the person you are trying to hit on might slow you down.

Besides making you more insecure, you don’t want to leave your buddy hanging when you want to sneaky out for a spontaneous cheeky night out with your new lover. And tell me, is that really something you want to miss out on?

Source: http://www.femalefirst.co.uk

All in all, I am not trying to convince you of anything. Your trip is yours and the most important is that you should live it the way you want. When you’re travelling with your partner instead of a regular friend there will be no need to fall in love, which might change the perspective a bit. However, all the other reasons for travelling alone are still valid. Nevertheless, travelling together can be fun as well. Solo,- group- and buddytravelling might be something to alternate between. Whatever you choose, make sure that you do it for you and not because someone else says so.

However, next time before you’re about to ask someone why in the world they would want to travel alone, think before you speak and consider all these reasons. Besides, they have probably already heard the same question a million times all over again.

The Liebster Award (tag)

This is not going to be a usual blog article. I’m not sure if you are going to like it, but I do feel honoured to have been tagged by my blog-friend Masha and everything needs a try. It might be a nice opportuity for you to get to know me better. Masha is, like me, a Dutch girl with a blog. However, she writes in Dutch and she blogs about books where I blog about travelling. The idea is that she gave me a list with 11 questions to answer and I am actually supposed to think of 11 new ones and tag someone else to answer them. However, I am not sure if I know any bloggers who would like that, so I am just going to post the new questions here, without any tags and who-ever likes it can answer them.

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But before I start with that, I will answer the questions that I’ve been given. As Masha is a book-blogger, not all of them will be suitable for me to answer.

1. Which book will you never read?
Easy! “50 Shades of Grey.” There are so many more interesting, slightly erotic books around that actually have a good storyline and a main character with potential.

2. What was the last book that you purchased, just because you liked the cover.
I don’t think I ever did that.

3. Which country would you like to visit?
Now this is a question for me! Obviously, there is my bucket list, but to tell you something you don’t already know, I would like to visit both Guatemala and Nepal (even though they’re at different ends of the world).

4. Do you have quirks when you read a book?
Not anything that I can think off, except that I might look really concerned, but that’s not really a quirk, is it?

5. What is your favoriete snack?
It doesn’t take me long to think about this one. My favourite snack would absolutely be a “kaassoufflee”, you can wake me up at 4am for that. For the non-dutchies, a kaassoufflee is a deep-fried cheese snack. It is basically cheese, wrapped in puff pastry and covered in bread crumbs, then diep-fried. Sounds yummie doesn’t it? 😉 Picture below!

Source: http://www.pinterest.com

6. Summer or Winter?
Anyone who has followed my blog and journeys knows that I can not often be found in colder countries, and that I am quite fun of the lovely warm sun and its vitamines. This, added up to the fact that my birthday is in summer absolutely answers this question easily: SUMMER!

7. If you were only allowed to read books written by one author, which author would it be?
As I still haven’t found the time to pass more than the first half of the first book of the game of thrones series, I ‘m going to choose George R. R. Martin. At least I’ll have plenty of books to go.

8. How many hours of sleep do you get each night and how many would you like to get?
Being a student, I consider myself lucky when I get 7 hours of sleep. However, I still feel permanently tired and think I need a few more. 9 hours of sleep each night would be perfect. Even thinking about it makes me feel like I’m in Heaven.

9. What is your favourite non-book blog?
This question obviously is not directed towards me, because I hardly have the time to read (even though I enjoy reading). I am talking about reading books now, not blogs. I do have the time for the second form of reading (not really, but hey), because I like to be inspired by other people’s expierences. Three non-book blogs (they are all three travel blogs) that inspire me a lot are:

http://whereintheworldisnina.comJournalist on the run
http://wearewanderers.info/

10. if you wouldn’t be allowed to blog about books travelling anymore, what would you write about?
As you can see, I had to adjust this question to my situation in order not to cheat at the idea of the question. The fun bit is, if I had more time to read and wasn’t allowed to write about my travels, books would possibly be what I would be writing about. That, or lifestylein general, maybe combined with opinion articles about actualities.

11.What is your favourite TV show and TV serie and why?
Believe it or not, but this is by far the hardest question of the list. Why? I don’t own a TV and don’t feel the urge to waste my time watching contentless talk shows. For this reason I have no idea which TV show would be my favourite.

On the other hand, I do have a guilty pleasure concerning TV series: I am hooked to game of thrones and can’t wait till the 15th of April when the first episode of the new season will be released. No need for a television, I’ll watch on my laptop.

My 11 questions to you
This was the end of answering my questions. Thanks Masha for the tag. Now, it is up to you guys to answer my questions if you like:

1. Are you a city or a country person?
2. What is your all-time favourite song on a road-trip?
3. If you won 10000 euros that you had to spend withing a year, what would you do with it?
4. You have to leave for a different country tomorrow. What is the first place that would come into mind?
5. What is the best, most original place that you have ever been?
6. Budget or luxury traveller?
7. Adventure, beach or city-trip?
8. Snow or sun destination?
9. What is your favourite continent?
10. How many countries have you visited?
11. What is the weirdest experience that you’ve had abroad?

Hope you guys like this for a change. Enjoy (:

Shop till you drop

Being a student has its advantages. It means you can get discounts on the cinema, high teas, restaurants; basically all the things that you are not able to afford on a student budget anyway. However, there is a huge downside to being a student too. The main drawback is time. It always seems to fly when there is a deadline coming up or when you just want to sleep a little bit longer, but time ticks away slowly when you are waiting for a party to go to.

Source: businessconjunctions.com

I must say, I do not have these moments very often when time when time seems to go slow. Not that I don’t go to any parties, more that during my “waiting time” I am usually quite busy trying to finish other things. One exception to this time-never-seems-to-go-slow-for-me phenomenon is having to wait untill the end of the semester to be able to travel. And yes, we have a week off sometimes during the semester, but spending a week somewhere does not leave the same impression as spending a month or a year in another place, let alone trying to fly to a destination further than three hours away and being able to stay a week only. Nope, summer really is the only period of time that we can actually spend useful, in terms of travelling.

Wanderlust, unfortunately, does not just disappear in the meantime. I read an article that there is an actual gene that causes the desire to travel and can never sit still. With another major trip ahead it is even harder to concentrate on the real world, but luckily there is a cure: shopping!

Source: business.time.com

Shopping?! You may wonder. I used this exact line before, and I might use it ore often: I am not a fashion blogger. I am not a girl that saves up to spend ridiculous amounts of money and can talk about some meaningless vest for 40 mintes in a vlog. I can’t even remember the last time I went casual clothes shopping. Has probably been over a year again, but anyway, how can shopping be a cure then? Well here is a small selection of what I bought in the past few weeks:


My shoppings include a map, travel guide, teva sandals, canvas hiking shoes (tropic-proof) and a spork. This is called living towards your dream-trip. Even getting vaccinated for overseas-areas can be fun this way! (Okay, I’m weird, but you get the idea right?)

Overall, I hate spending money, but today I felt so happy after leaving the outdoor store I had just visited, complete with two filled shoeboxes. There were so many other other items that I would have bought if I hadn’t found the strength to retain myself. It is better to collect your stuff slowly, suitable for the trip you’re going to make and think and revise before you decide. Maps and travel guides obviously differ for each area, but clothes and moreover shoes are quite an important purchase. They may cost a few bucks, but I have learned over time that buying strong, decent shoes and clothing is absolutely worth the investment. The beauty of that is that quality-gear lasts long and you can just use it for your next trip, meaning that, when you don’t have to spend any money on shoes next time, you might be able to buy that long-wished scuba-diving watch. This is how your collection starts. And what you don’t have yet, you can possibly borrow. No need to go all geared up, just the basics are fine. Whether your a wandering student or a backpacker, our priortes are the same. Travel light and travel cheap, as we don’t have the funds to do anything else.